words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they
become habits. Watch your habits; they become
character. Watch your character; it becomes your
destiny”. -Lao Tzu
When you strive to be perfect you will always end up feeling like a failure.
However well you do, however much you achieve or attain, it will never feel like
‘enough’ because it will never be perfect, and it will never quench the insatiable
appetite of perfectionism. You are left feeling hollow and that you have somehow
fallen short. Perfectionism blinds you to your inherent worth and value, and
diminishes positives whilst over emphasizing negatives.
You spot what’s wrong, what’s not perfect, and fail to see the achievements, the
assets, the beauty and value that are there.
Perfectionism is an ego trap that keeps you separate from love, acceptance and
appreciation. It creates unattainable standards and expectations and offers no
fruits in return, being void of feelings of success, triumph, celebration, self recognition
and acknowledgement. The futile quest for perfectionism is a
compensation for a belief that who you are is not enough.
Seeking perfection is an attempt to vanquish feelings of inadequacy, shame and
lack of value, yet sadly it only compounds these.
If you are trying to be perfect you will not be able to love yourself as whom you
are right now. It is the illusory holy grail of the ego.
It's not about being perfect, it's about being YOU.
The more you love and accept yourself just as you are, the more easily you let go
of what you are not and shine your true nature, which is AMAZING!
Acknowledge the incredible love and light that you are, and your own unique
gifts, strengths, talents and potential. Who you are is so much more than enough!
“Every person is the creation of himself, the image of his own thinking and
believing. As individuals think and believe, so they are”. - Claude Bristol
This is an extract from a chapter in my about to be published book "WISDOM NUGGETS: Doses for Inspiration and Success"; coming out soon!.
